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At one point in time we get into situations where things don't work in our favour as we would like it. At that time too we realise that we are getting late or we are loosing something we treasure. At this moment the future becomes very bleak and we feel we want to do something immediately to change the situation. But what we should actually do is also not clear to us. Now that is desperation. Sometimes it is about life and death. Other times it is about survival. Whatever the case desperation is the same. But the question is should we be desperate at all?
Being desperate is a choice. Everybody faces challenges in life. But the way we react to these challenges determines the effect that this challenge will have on us. When you panic before a strange dog it will back at you. But if you remain study it sees no threat in you and will not attack. So are many wild animals. Being desperate can lead to negative consequences.
When you are desperate you will fail to analyse the situation properly. This means you draw the wrong conclusions, leading to wrong decisions. Wrong decisions will lead to wrong actions which will in turn generate undesirable consequences. Check this example. Supposing you are on top of a tree and realise that there is a snake up with you. Desperation might make you jump down and you might get hurt in the process. But you could find a way of getting down without being bitten. You could even cut the branch on which the snake is, so the snake falls and not you.
Desperation makes you get less than you deserve. The impaired judgment that comes due to being desperate will make you accept terms that in the end are not in your best interest. Many people have given away valuable properties and investments for paltry sums of money just because at a point in time the desperately needed money. Some people because they desperately needed to marry entered into certain marriages that don't work.
Desperation makes you vulnerable. People will take advantage of you when they realise that you are desperate. One of such cases is the story of Essau in the Bible. He was so desperately hungry that he fails to listen well to the conditions his brother Jacob attached to the bowl of broth he wanted. At the end he wept bitterly for it. He lost his birthright. Jacob who was for a long time (since their birth) looking for an opportunity to take the birthright saw his brother desperate, and caught him in his trap. Don't allow yourself to be trapped like that by being desperate.
有段时间，我们会陷入事情不怎么顺利的困境。也就是在那时，我们才意识到为时已晚或者我们正在失去我们珍惜的东西。此刻，未来变得十分灰暗，我们感觉到我们必须立刻做一些事情来改变现状。但是事实上，我们应该做什么也不是很清楚。这就是绝望。有时绝望是关于生活和死亡。有时是关于生存。不论是什么情况，绝望都是一样的。但问题是我们就应该这样绝望下去吗？
绝望是一种选择，每个人在生活中的面临挑战。但是我们应对这些挑战的方式决定了挑战对于我们的影响。如果你在一条陌生的狗面前惊慌失措的话，它将会跟着你。但是如果你继续学习，狗会认为你对它没有威胁，自然不会攻击你。其他的野生动物也是这样。绝望会导致负面的结果。
当你陷入绝望的时候，你就不能正确的分析现状。这就意味这你会下错误的结论，导致做了错误的决定。错误的决定会引起错误的行为，而这种错误的行为又会引起不想看到的后果。例如，假如说你在树上，看到一条蛇。绝望之中你会跳下去，结果你可能受伤。但是你可以找到一种既可以下去，又不被蛇咬的方法。你甚至可以砍断有蛇的那个树枝，所以掉下去的是蛇，而不是你。
绝望会使你得到的比你应得的要少。由于绝望而做出的不妥的判断会迫使你接受一些你最终不出于你本意的事情。许多人放弃了珍贵的财产和微不足道的投资仅仅是因为在这个时间点急需要钱。有些人由于他们迫切的想要结婚，而步入了不幸的婚姻。
绝望会使你变得容易受伤。当人们意识到你绝望的时候就会利用你。圣经中Essau的故事就是这类的情况。Essau非常的饿，他没有认清当时的状况，为了一碗肉汤出卖了自己。最后他为此付出了沉重的代价。他失去了他长子的继承权。Jacob,觊觎他长子的权利很久了，看到他的哥哥很绝望，在他陷入困境的时候抓住了他。不要允许你自己因为绝望而陷入困境。
