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Did you finish cleaning your room? Did you exercise for one solid hour? Did you call your friend and make amends? Did you go one whole day without a cigarette? Did you refrain from ranting out and instead recalled the old adage, no one can know what a fool you are, until you open your mouth? Then reward yourself.
How you may ask, does one go about rewarding oneself. It is amazing how many people are not aware of how to do good things for oneself. I found this list of rewards as a sure fire way of knowing that if I didn't even care to do one of these for myself, the most important person, obviously, in my whole life, then I must be too depressed to do any of those behaviors expounded upon in the first paragraph. Then, I would consider paying someone to hear me talk.
Rewards are an inherent part in our motivational system. Pavlov discovered them and used them quite effectively. No one has since up mastered Pavlov in reducing our conditioned motivational system to its most elemental and brain formative manner. The dog barks, you take him out. He urinates, you give him a treat.
You refrained from confronting someone who was waiting for you at City Hall. You, instead, held your shoulders up and continued on your path deliberately ignoring her loud insults. You completed your task and returned home minus the confrontation. Tomorrow you should go to the mall and get a manicure.
In order to be effective, this type of conditioning must be continual. I am not a dog, you might say. Well, neither were monkeys, astronauts. We train on animals, and we use what works on humans, who, by the way, lest we forget, my God why do we have to say it , over and over again, are also animals.
Twelve rewards that are effective and that people have used:
Go out to a store deliberately to buy yourself a new book, a magazine, a tape, a hat.
Sleep in late. If you can't sleep, lie in bed until you absolutely have to get up.
Only eat food that you like as a reward for one day.
Get a new hairstyle.
Get a jogging outfit, new running shoes, an exercise module.
Get tickets to a sporting game, or to a concert.
Go to a movie or join netflix.com
Treat yourself to lunch.
Hire someone else to do your household chores for one week.
Plan time for what you want to do not what everybody around you is expecting you to do.
Rewards were how we developed as humans. From crying when we wanted our diapers changed to cuddling up when we wanted to be comforted, we were either treated with a clean diaper or with hugs or we were ignored. If not the former then we have had serious problems all of our lives. But, now as adults, we can reward ourselves. If we can read this article, we can overcome all obstacles that we feel are in our way by ourselves and most importantly for ourselves.
你打扫完你的房间了吗?有连续一个小时做运动吗?你给朋友打电话并且向他们道歉了吗?有没有度过一整天却没有抽烟呢?你忍住大嚷大叫,去回忆那些文明谚语了吗?因为没人会知道你的无知,除非你自己张口说话。如果你做到了,那么奖励你自己吧!
你也许会问:“一个人怎么会开始奖励自己呢?”令人吃惊的是许多人都不知道怎样做会对自己好。我找到了这个问题清单,依据这些,我知道了:如果我连对最重要的人,即我自己,都没有细心做到这些,那么,很明显,一生中,我一定也因太消沉而做不到第一段中所提到的事情。所以,我想着要让一些人注意我谈到的内容。
奖励是 存在于我们的动机激发系统中的内在组成部分。Pavlov 发现了他们,并且很有效地运用它们。pavlov 将我们受制约的动机激发系统概括为最基本的大脑形成习惯。狗叫了,你把它带出去。它撒尿了,你会为它做处理。
你不想与在城市大厅等你的某人争执,那么,昂首挺胸地继续走你的路,故意不理会它的辱骂。因此,你避免了争执,回到了家,成功地完成了你的任务。那么,第二天,你应该去购物中心修修指甲。
为使其有效,这种条件作用必须是连续性的。你可能会说,我又不是一条狗。当然了,我们也不是猴子或太空人。我们训练动物,那么我们用什么来培训人类呢?顺便提一下,唯恐我们忘记,我们不得不一次又一次提起人类也是动物。
以下是十二种人们用过的有效的奖励方式:
1. 专门到商店去为你自己买一本新书,杂志,一个磁带,一顶帽子。
2. 睡懒觉。如果你睡不着了,那么躺到你不得不起床为止。
3.一整天只吃你喜欢的可以作为奖赏的食物。
4.剪一个新发型。
5.买一套新的慢跑装备,新的跑步鞋,和运动装备。
6. 买票去观看体育比赛或音乐会。
7.去看电影或加入netflix.com
8.款待你自己,好好吃顿午餐。
9.雇一个人来帮你做一周的家务。
10.计划做一些你想要做的事情,而不是你周围的人要求你做的事情。
奖励是随着我们人类的成长而发展变化的。从该换尿布时的哭闹到想要获得安慰时的拥抱,我们会被换上干净的尿布,被紧紧抱住,或者没人管。如果没有被回应,那么恐怕我们一辈子都会有严重的问题。但是现在长大了,我们可以自己奖励自己。如果可以读到这篇文章,我们就能自己克服所有阻碍我们的难题,最重要的是为了我们自己。
