What is the secret ingredientof tough people that enables them to succeed?Why do they survive the tough times when others are overcome by them? Why do they win when others lose? Why do they soar when others sink?

    The answer is very simple. It's allin how they perceive their problems. Yes, every living person has problems. A problem-free life isanillusion-a miragein the desert. Accept that fact.

    Every mountain has a peak. Every valley has its low point. Life has its ups and downs, its peaks and its valleys.No one is up all the time,nor are they down all the time. Problems do end. They are all resolved in time.

    You may not be able to control the times, but you can compose your response. You can turn your pain into profanity -or into poetry. The choice is up to you. You may not have chosen your tough time, but you can choose how you will react to it.

    For instance, what is the positive reaction to a terrible financial setback? In this situation would it be the positive reaction to copout and runaway? Escape through alcohol, drug, or suicide? No! Such negative reactions only produce greater problems by promising a temporary solution to the pressing problem.

    The positive solution to a problem may require courage to initiate it. When you control your reaction to the seemingly un-controllable problemof life, then in fact you do control the problem's effect on you. Your reaction to the problem is the last word! That's the bottom line. What will you let this problem do to you? It can make you tender or tough.It can make you better or bitter. It all depends on you.

    In the final analysis, the tough people who survive the tough times do so because they've chosen to react positively to their predicament. Tough times never last, but tough people do. Tough people stick it out. History teaches us that every problem has a lifespan.

    No problem is permanent. Storms always give way to the sun. Winter always thaws into springtime. Your storm will pass. Your winter will thaw. Your problem will be solved.

    坚韧不拨的人成功的秘诀是什么？他们为什么能挺过艰难的时刻，而其他人却被困难所压倒？为什么成功的是他们，而失败的是其他人？为什么他们一飞冲天，而其他人都深陷泥沼？

    答案很简单，全看他们是如何看待自己面临的难题。不错，人人有本难念的经。没有难题困扰的人生只能是一个幻想，是沙漠中的海市蜃楼。还是接受这个事实吧。

    每一座山都有巅峰，每一个峡谷都有深底。人生也有兴衰起伏，不会有人一生都时乖命蹇。难题总有了结的一天。随着时间的推移，一切难题都会迎刃而解。

    你也许不能控制时势，可是你能够冷静应对。你既可以把痛苦转换为怨天尤人的诅咒，也可以赋予之以诗意，这全在于你自己的选择。时运不济的你或许无从选择，但是你可以选择应对的方略。

    譬如，遭遇一次严重的经济挫折，究竟怎么做才称得上积极应对呢？放弃而后潜逃？借酒浇愁？吸毒麻醉？抑或自杀？这样的逃避是积极应对吗？当然不是！这样一些消极的反应似乎暂时解决了迫在眉睫的难题，但事实上只会招致更棘手的难题。

    积极的应对只能是鼓起勇气着手解决。对于人生中看似无法控制的难题，当你能够控制自己的应对，那么你就事实上控制了难题对你的影响。你对难题的应对是至关重要的、最根本的。难题能对你产生什么样的影响呢？它可以使你脆弱，也可以使你坚强；它可以使你升华，也可以使你痛苦。全在于你自己。

    归根结底，坚韧的人之所以能挺过艰难的岁月，是因为他们选择积极地去应对困境。艰难的岁月不会没完没了，坚韧的人会始终不懈，坚持到底。历史告诉我们，每一个难题都有始有终，任何难题都不会永远存在。

    暴风雨过后一定是灿烂的阳光。严冬必然会化为春光。你的暴风雨也会过去，你的冬天也会回暖。你的难题终将解决。